I recently read a very thought-provoking article by Susie Steiner of the Guardian UK, dated 2-1-12, titled “Top five regrets of the dying.”
“A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?”
The nurse, Australian Bronnie Ware, spent many years working in hospice care for patients in the last weeks of their lives and recorded their last thoughts about what they wish they might have done differently.
It prompted me to think about what regrets I might have in my final days. Tough subject for someone who is not near death, but surprisingly, my own thoughts at this point aren’t all that different from the ones Ms. Ware heard from her patients.
Of the five she listed, I particularly identify with three of them and it’s got me thinking about what I can do to change those things now, so that maybe my only regret will be that I did not do them sooner.
The article expands on these much more and is worth the read, but here are the five that Ms. Ware listed:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Any thoughts about what you might regret?